Criticism- take it, eat it and flush it out!!!

Many a times, we come to know that we are being talked about, behind our back.We hear people gossiping/ bitching about us.In my opinion , in order to deal with it, we have to accept  and acknowledge the fact that it's all a part of  life.It's human nature to talk about others and we ,as humans,  enjoy being critical about everyone / everything around  us.

'WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT ME , IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS'. What a powerful message this line conveys, isn't it?? If what I do is right in my opinion, then what   others think about it ,need not bother me a bit. I should be bothered  about my HEART'S  and MIND'S approval to my actions and not whether  others approve of it or not .It's my life and it's only me who knows what is right for me and what ain't. Somebody has very rightly said that 'LEARN TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN YOUR REPUTATION AND CHARACTER'. Your reputation is what people think about you, while your character is what you REALLY are. Generally reputation is built by what we do to impress others .In a way its good for one to have a good reputation.But if we become obsessed with this REPUTATION term, we might lose  ourselves as a person and gets stressed and burdened  by the thought that WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT US. Don't you think  that its the CHARACTER that matters  more than the REPUTATION. To evolve as a better human being, we need to be focused upon building good values and beliefs. People will think what they want, sometimes it will be good and sometimes it will be bad as well. You can't make them think  your way...accept it.Building a god reputation is good to an extent but not to an extent of getting obsessed with it.Don't try to control it , because you just  can't. In a democracy  of 100 people, if 51 out of those 100's choose a person for the post of Prime minister,he will become the prime minister,  irrespective of the 49  votes against him. So, resistance will always be there, human  has a nature to express himself..be it negatively or positively. It's you who has  to decide whether you  gonna let this resistance  ruin you  or  help you evolve as a stronger person.  Rumor are going to be there all around you in many shapes and forms, you have to learn to live and deal with them.

Facts have  it that whenever someone tries to take an initiative, or do something against the league, people/ society /family  are bound to TALK ABOUT IT. They will leave no chance to criticize that person's effort because somewhere or the other they realize that they themselves are not capable of doing what THAT SOMEONE is doing. I recently came across a beautiful quote  that  ' THE FEW WHO DO, ARE THE ENVY OF MANY WHO ONLY WATCH'. People are jealous when they see someone doing better than them and they express this jealousy in different ways and one of the most common methods of doing so is... SPREADING RUMORS, CRITICIZING the  ones who they envy .Always remember that if you find people talking about you, behind your back, it means that your life is definitely more interesting and better than theirs. .It means that you are way ahead of them.So, learn to be  comfortable about criticism and take  it in  your stride.